Should I change my job?
It’s 6AM and the alarm just goes off. Your first thought is, “Aaaahhh! another day of this!” The whole morning seems tedious, and you are constantly feeling that you are missing out on something more. You get to the end of the day, and you feel stuck, frustrated and disconnected from the 8 hours which you just put into your job. You get to bed, and the pattern repeats the next morning.
- Am I building the life that I want?
- Is this a season or the norm?
- What do I deeply care about
Am I building the life that I want?
- Take a few moments and ask yourself what the life that you want to design is. Here are some questions to help:
- If you can have a conversation with your future self, what would you want him or her to tell you about the life that you are living?
- Is this person thankful for the skills and attitudes you are learning currently?
If your answer to this is no, then this might be an indication that you are currently on a path that you might not be pleased with. Make a list of some of the habits and lifestyle changes which you want to cultivate. Now, reflect: Would my current job get me closer to this? Where can I learn these skills?
Is this a season or the norm?
When we are going through a tough time, we tend to lose perspective. In this state of mind, it is not very easy to make effective decisions. So with this in mind, ask yourself:
- Is what I am currently experiencing a season, or is it the norm?
- Will my future self be thankful for sticking it through?
- Is this season teaching me something that will help me design the life which I want?
What do I deeply care about?
“We hurt the most where we care the most” – Steven Hayes.
Behind our emotions, there usually is something that we genuinely care about. Do this exercise:
Take a post-it note or a piece of paper and write down the uncomfortable emotions which you are experiencing. Now, flip it around and write down the stuff you genuinely care about.
Our pain and hope are connected. Whether you are feeling frustrated, stuck or anxious in your career, these feelings provide us with a signal that there is something we care about which we might not be acting upon or receiving. So, if your current job just cannot provide you with more of this, you might have your answer.
As a career counsellor, it is my job to help people design the lives that they truly want. Call today if you feel like you may benefit from a collaborative, non-judgmental space to help make these tough decisions.